You've Done It All

The Systems, the SOPs. The software. EOS. Conferences.

You delegated until nothing was “yours” anymore.

And yes, some of it helped. But not the way you hoped.

Your team may not run to you when the copier jams, but you’re still the system.

You carry the weight of every decision.

You initiate every conversation.

You anticipate problems before they happen, scanning the horizon so no one else has to.

You absorb the pressure, the responsibility, the accountability quietly, invisibly, relentlessly.

That’s not freedom.

And it’s not normal.

“She sees, hears, and cares about leaders—enough to go to the heart of the struggle, speak the truth, and wait for you to meet her there.”

LORI BUXTON, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR ASSOCIATION FOR EARLY LEARNING LEADERS

Is This Book For You?

This Can’t Be Normal is Written For Leaders Who:

Own a childcare center, preschool, or private school

Have scaled to multiple locations and still feel like everything rests on them

Have invested in EOS, SOPs, software, and consultants and still can’t find the calm you were promised

Are tired of “regularly scheduled chaos” being the baseline

Carry the weight of every decision, even after delegating everything you possibly could

Want peace, partnership, and leadership, not just bigger systems to manage

Are ready for a map that makes success sustainable, not just bigger

What You'll Discover In

This CAn't Be Normal

Why all the systems in the world still leave you exhausted. Structure helps, but it doesn’t create the calm or stability you’re craving.

Why doing more was never the answer. The real shift is leading in a way that doesn’t leave you invisibly holding it all when the pressure hits.

Why growth never feels “finished.” Leadership moves in seasons, not straight lines. When you see that, you stop feeling like you’re falling behind.

How to stop quietly being the system. Even with every process and tool in place, you may still be invisibly carrying the pressure of decisions and conversations.. You’ll learn how to lead without being consumed by it all.

How to stop mistaking agreement for progress. Head-nods in a meeting don’t lighten the load if you’re still the only one holding the standard when pressure hits. you’ll see how to turn polite agreement into shared ownership.

Download Chapter 1 of

This Can’t Be Normal

“I love how your writing tells a story and builds towards something—it keeps me wanting to read more. This resonated so deeply. I am that leader: depleted from all the pouring into others, carrying the invisible strain. Tell me more…”

charlie marcotty, school owner

“What really stood out to me was how conversational the chapter felt, it instantly turned into an internal monologue for me.. It was also extremely relatable, because it’s exactly what I’m going through right now...”

bri mccarty, school owner

“Honestly the entire chapter 1 was like taking pages straight out of my brain. I related to everything you spoke about, but I never expressed it out loud. It was like ahhhh someone understands what it’s like to be me!”

Donna Jensen, school owner

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Chanie Wilschanski inspires school owners, leaders, and educators with a message of sustainable leadership built on rhythms, not quick fixes. She has been featured on top podcasts, national conference stages, and in private workshops, where her practical, values-driven approach resonates across the education space.

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Signature Topics:

The Invisible Weight of Leadership
Why Systems Fail (and What Actually Creates Safety)
The BRIDGE Anchors for Resilient Leadership
Practical Rhythms that Reduce Burnout

The Invisible Weight of Leadership

Why Systems Fail (and What Actually Creates Safety)

The BRIDGE Anchors for Resilient Leadership

Practical Rhythms that Reduce Burnout

Hi, I'm

Chanie Wilschanski

I’m a leadership mentor, keynote speaker, and the founder and CEO of Schools of Excellence, where I’ve had the privilege of working with thousands of school leaders across the world.

In This Can’t Be Normal, I’m not here with a pep talk or a motivational speech. I’m here to give you a map for leading through the quiet, chronic pressure you carry every day

I’ll give you anchors that hold when the pressure is heavy, and rhythms that pull you out of regularly scheduled chaos—even when it feels like you’re running a school, a circus, and a small country all at once.

I didn’t write this book just as a CEO. I wrote it as a wife, a mother of four, a former teacher, and a school leader. I know what it feels like to carry everything, to keep hoping the next system will finally save you, and to wonder if anyone really sees the weight you’re holding.

I believe that excellence is about knowing who you are under pressure and choosing rhythms that bring you home to yourself again and again.

This CAn't Be Normal

You don’t need another system, software, or strategy that promises calm but leaves you holding even more. What you need are rhythms that anchor you when the pressure builds and bring you back to steady leadership in every season.

This Can’t Be Normal is your map to leading without carrying the invisible weight alone.

This CAn't Be Normal

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