Why does building a bigger team often make leaders feel more alone?
Why does being needed feel meaningful until it becomes suffocating?
Why do highly capable people become trapped by the very competence that build their success?
"Honestly, it felt like someone took pages straight out of my brain."
You've done it all.
The systems. The SOPs. The software. EOS. The conferences, books etc.
You worked hard to get everything off your plate. And yes, some of it helped, but not the way you hoped.
Your team may not run to you when the copier jams anymore. But you're still the system.
You carry the weight of every decision.
You initiate the conversations nobody wants to have.
You anticipate problems before they happen.
You are carrying dozens of open loops in your head that nobody else even realizes exist.
You mentally rehearse difficult conversations before they happen.
You leave work and keep thinking about work.
You wake up remembering things nobody else remembered.
People call you successful ...
But most days it feels like everything is routing
through one nervous system ...
YOURS.
And then one day, a thought quietly appears...
How can I have this much support and still carry this much responsibility?
Why does everything eventually come back to me?
Why does nobody seem to see how much I'm holding?
And somewhere beneath those questions is a realization:
This CAn't Be Normal
Most leaders assume this is simply the price of success.
So they keep searching for solutions.
Better systems.
Stronger people.
More help.
Better boundaries.
Less on their plate.
And yet the weight remains.
Chapter 1 begins with a different question:
What if none of those are the thing
that's actually exhausting you?
“She sees, hears, and cares about leaders—enough to go to the heart of the struggle, speak the truth, and wait for you to meet her there.”
LORI BUXTON, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR ASSOCIATION FOR EARLY LEARNING LEADERS
Hi, I'm
Chanie Wilschanski
For nearly two decades, I've worked with founders, owners, directors, and leadership teams.
No matter the industry or level of success, I kept hearing the same thing:
"I'm tired."
"I feel responsible for everything."
"I don't understand why this still feels so heavy."
I wrote This Can't Be Normal for the people carrying more than anyone realizes.
The ones hoping the next system, strategy, or hire will finally make things feel lighter.
The ones quietly wondering if this is really what success is supposed to feel like.
Because the success you are experiencing should not feel like survival.
Download Chapter 1 of
This Can’t Be Normal for free.
If you've ever looked around and wondered:
Why does everything eventually come back to me?
Why does success feel like survival?
Start here.
The thing you've accepted as normal may not be normal at all.
“I love how your writing tells a story and builds towards something—it keeps me wanting to read more. This resonated so deeply. I am that leader: depleted from all the pouring into others, carrying the invisible strain. Tell me more…”
charlie marcotty, school owner
“What really stood out to me was how conversational the chapter felt, it instantly turned into an internal monologue for me.. It was also extremely relatable, because it’s exactly what I’m going through right now...”
bri mccarty, school owner
“Honestly the entire chapter 1 was like taking pages straight out of my brain. I related to everything you spoke about, but I never expressed it out loud. It was like ahhhh someone understands what it’s like to be me!”
Donna Jensen, school owner
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Signature Topics:
The Invisible Weight of Leadership
Why Systems Fail (and What Actually Creates Safety)
The BRIDGE Anchors for Resilient Leadership
Practical Rhythms that Reduce Burnout
The Invisible Weight of Leadership
Why Systems Fail (and What Actually Creates Safety)
The BRIDGE Anchors for Resilient Leadership
Practical Rhythms that Reduce Burnout
You've Done It All
The Systems, the SOPs. The software. EOS. Conferences.
You delegated until nothing was “yours” anymore.
And yes, some of it helped. But not the way you hoped.
Your team may not run to you when the copier jams, but you’re still the system.
You carry the weight of every decision.
You initiate every conversation.
You anticipate problems before they happen, scanning the horizon so no one else has to.
You absorb the pressure, the responsibility, the accountability quietly, invisibly, relentlessly.
That’s not freedom.
And it’s not normal.
This CAn't Be Normal
You don’t need another system, software, or strategy that promises calm but leaves you holding even more. What you need are rhythms that anchor you when the pressure builds and bring you back to steady leadership in every season.
This Can’t Be Normal is your map to leading without carrying the invisible weight alone.
This CAn't Be Normal
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